You Failed? So What? How to See Failure As Empowering and Treat it as Such

Beliefs learned from childhood have never been the truth so far as challenges in life are concerned. And one such belief that has been smeared into our conscience as the truth is that, Failure is dis-empowering therefore, it is negative. This explains why we get moved by our emotions whenever we hit that rock in our line of duty. Hell will break loose when things fail to pan out as expected. We "cause" and curse everybody who happen to cross our path. This is not how life is supposed to be lived. You don't live a life of regret and blame using anger to express your feelings. The truth is that: whatever you are going through right now is as a result of a combination of your actions and thoughts of yesterday. Call it Karma but the fact is that whatever we do will always bubble back to us either sooner or later. If all along throughout your upbringing, you dreaded failure and saturated your thoughts with it, hey you will reap it. This is one of the universal laws of the universe and it is immutable. No one can change it to favor you or someone else.

So you were taught to see failure as evil? Then don't do anymore. The truth about life is that, what is learned from childhood can be unlearned starting right now. So instead of seeing failure as a masquerader, begin to see it as part of the learning process. Now to deal with this issue, it is important we grapple with what failure is. Failure is the opposite of success - true. But i see Failure as an unexpected outcome to our intended expectations in whatever we engaged with. There are two sides to every coin. And in life sometimes, whatever you look forward to with the greatest anticipation can result in a different outcome. The life of avatars like Albert Einstein, Edison, and Michael Faraday prove the potency of this truth. The penny had dropped before in their life -and that was not bad. They saw failure as empowering; as the alternative outcome of their expected outcome; and also as a result that prove that their ideas will work with the right mix of thoughts, observation and attitude. Einstein concluded that, "anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new". What Einstein was trying to say is that, if you haven't stumble before, then you have not done anything new.

So the penny dropped in your life and instead of comporting yourself, suddenly you began to yell at everybody in your life? Don't take it hard on yourself. Instead of that, treat failure as a strange visitor who comes to give you a very strange information. Sometimes very sad information but highly informative, eye-opening and revealing. Another thing worth noting is that, it was in moments of failure and disappointment that the ideas and theories ruling our world today came about. They came about as alternative thoughts.

If you are interested in your breakthroughs, begin to have a different outlook for failure. Begin to lessen the effect of its power. It is an alternative to success, Yes but at least, it is not evil. It is there to inform you that your actions of yesterday were not good enough; that your thoughts of yesterday couldn't give you the pass to a successful life today. So you failed the job interview; the exams; the proposal presentation? So what? So what? What's in it for you? You have only learned what didn't work and the presence of that alone gives you the direction to the things that will work for you granted you gain your composure to navigate further. See Failure as the road sign that tells you that; "not this way, but rather that way". Yes "that way". Beginning from today and right about now, learn to soften the power of failure in your actions; thoughts and attitudes. It cannot kill you, it will only change your mood if you let it.